Saturday, October 29, 2016

Little Miss Two Months Home Amazes Us All!

Love & Family Work Miracles

Nickel City riding in the Semi-truck....she rode this for over an hour and loved it!!

This month has been easier than the first month home.....we finally found a way to get Little Miss to sleep through the night and it has made a HUGE difference!   She didn't say much in Mandarin or English when she first came home....her communication was limited to "I need to go potty"   "I'm Hungry"  "Zhao Dao" 
and crying.....

In the last month she has LOVED learning and she will sit at the kitchen table while I teach her English and she just absorbs it.  I will say a phrase in Mandarin like "Shū tóufa"   and then I will say... Brush your hair and she will copy me over and over.   Throughout the day she will repeat both the Mandarin and the English and when I brush her hair she will also repeat them over and over again....she is learning so fast!

She has learned to say on her own:

  • I want to go downstairs
  • I want the trampoline
  • Change your clothes
  • Brush your teeth
  • Brush your hair
  • I want a drink of water
  • I want a juice box
  • I want noodles
  • I want honeycomb
  • I want a drink of water
  • I want music
  •  Gei Ni hug (give you hug)
  • Get in the tub
  • I want to swing
  • I want to spin  (she wants you to spin her in circles)
  • Hold me please
  • Help me please
  • Ride in the car
  • Ride in the wagon
  • I want to pick a tomato
  • All done pick a tomato
  • Wash your hands
  • wash your face
  • and many more.....
She is quite entertaining, she has learned to bark from hearing the dogs and so she will go around barking and then say, "Toby, No"  or "Rosie, No"  She does this in public a lot....people must think she is a little off her rocker :-D

She has conversations with her toys, the toy will say "Hi" to her and then she will say "I love you lid"  She hears I love you all the time from all of us so now she tells all her toys that she loves them :-)  It is SO cute~!
Sometimes she will have a little conversation and say, "Hi, I'm hungry.  Are you hungry.  Yeah.  Okay.  Good job."

Gei Ni Hug

She wanted to snuggle with me in the morning after giving me a hug and so we sat in the chair snuggling...I had so much cleaning, laundry, dishes to do and yet....snuggling is more important so if you come to my house and see floors that need vacuuming, dishes that need to be done or piles of laundry.....This picture is the reason my house is not as clean and I would like it to be!   Keeping your priorities straight is important.....loving a child is far more important than a spotless house!

Little Miss new favorite thing in the world is HUGS! <3  This child absolutely loves hugs!  She does NOT like strangers and so she does not hug anyone outside of our immediate family right now but she asks for hugs constantly.

Here is a short description of my morning.....go into Little miss bedroom to get her out of bed...Good morning...are you ready to get out of bed?    Yeah, all done bed.   Gei Ni Mama Hug.... 

We walk downstairs and she is jumping in the living room and I walk into the kitchen to start breakfast....
Gei Ni Mama Hug....I flip around before reaching the kitchen to give her a hug and a snuggle....back to the kitchen I go.  I get out a pan or a bowl and start to get breakfast and I hear....Gei Ni Mama Hug....
Back I go into the living room for a hug and a snuggle.....back to the kitchen.

I begin again to get breakfast ready....I pour, get out a spoon, and again I hear Gei Ni Mama I go back to the living room for a hug.  

When loading the dishwasher I get 2 or 3 dishes loaded between hugs :-)   Thank Heavens Dave works from home in the mornings so she switches between the two of us when he is home...Gei Ni Baba Hug and he comes running to give her hugs.   When ....Pause.....(I just heard Gei Ni Mama Hug from the living room so off I go for a hug)  and...I'm back!

When all four of us are home she switches off....Gei Ni Kenzi hug....then Gei Ni Camdyn Hug.....  
Don't even think about asking for a hug...if you do she will tell you NO Gei Ni Hug!!!  You have to wait your turn...LOL  (Pause...I just heard Gei Ni Mama Hug from the living room again)   and......I am Back....

Whew....Dave just came down and took her out to pick a tomato from the garden so I can have a break and finish my blog...   

Rock-a-Bye Little Miss

I rock her to sleep every night in the rocking chair and she LOVES it.  We put her jammies on and she automatically backs into me wanting to get in the rocking chair and then she asks for her blanket and says I want music.

She listens to the frozen soundtrack while I rock her to sleep.  She will fall completely asleep as Dave and I talk while I rock her and then I put her in bed and she will say half asleep...."Good night, I love you"   It just melts my heart!

Please Don't be Offended

She is VERY talkative at home and sings and talks constantly....but in public and around strangers she is very quiet and shy.   She is NOT a fan of strangers and so she will often become very quiet and then out of the blue she will start Yelling  "Bye Bye"  

She becomes agitated if people she doesn't know talk to her and she may start crying or she may yell at you.  Don't be offended she is just frightened and nervous.  In her little world the last time two strangers came and started talking to her they took her away from all she knew.  She does not understand that she is with her forever family and so she doesn't know what a stranger is going to do and so she becomes afraid and will yell and cry.

We LOVE to have visitors and would love to talk to you about her and she is happy to say hi to you quickly but too much interaction or asking her questions may frighten her.  It is best to say Hi to her and then talk with us so that she feels safe.  Hopefully in time she will be more open talking to strangers....but please don't avoid us :-)

Sunday, October 9, 2016

One month home.....I cannot begin to recount to you the full experience of this past month...there were sleepless nights,  up at 3 am with a child who thinks it is morning, up at 2 am with a crying grieving child...there were tantrums, crying and yet....among the heartache and sleepless nights there was joy, laughter, and happiness.  The emotions of this month have been beyond any I have ever experienced before in my life.

Amongst the sleepless nights and constant and relentless care of a six year old orphan who is developmentally more like a two year old I felt that I was cracking under the pressure.....My life was not the same.  I found myself wracked with guilt as I grieved the loss of the life I had life was easy, I spent my days easily cleaning the house and could come and go whenever I life profoundly changed on Aug. 29th, it was a day I had waited for, but it brought with it profound changes that left me grieving a little for what I had before......

Life is not meant to be lived for yourself

Today as I was sitting at the counter while little Miss was eating her breakfast I opened the Ensign and began to read.....the answer to my pleading prayers was found within the words of the short article....

A story of Parley P. Pratt profoundly affected me.. he had been imprisoned in a hotel, sleeping on hard floors in the freezing winter months and during the night he managed to escape.  He found himself trudging through a winter storm, the snow covering his tracks and the snow covered trees concealing him.....he stood in that freezing storm contemplating the choices that lay before him.  He could continue on to freedom back to his family, or he could turn back and face imprisonment and accusations of high crimes with his friends he had left behind...

The Scripture in Mark 8:35 which reads, "He that seeks to save his own life shall lose it, but he that loses his life for my sake shall find it..."   

The words of that scripture sank deep into my heart...that moment I chose to accept God's will in my life to provide a home for a little orphan girl, I chose to lose my life in the service of God, in the service of someone in need.  Where was my heart now...looking back, seeking to 'save' my life of ease and comfort...that is not where God had called me to be, I must lose my life in the service God had called me to and in doing so I would find life, life eternal.

And the answers continued to come....

Sitting in sacrament meeting today, listening to the speaker talk about service and that a life without purpose has no meaning...he also read the scripture in Mark 8:35 and then he detailed President Hinckley's story as he had been on his mission for several months and wrote home to his parents saying he felt he was wasting his time and his family's money as the people did not want to hear his message.  His fathers response really struck me....."Forget yourself and Go to work"

I felt it pierce my heart, I knew that I needed to forget myself, stop looking back at the past and get to work.  You have a work to do, it isn't easy, but it will be worth it.  I prayed this morning that God would help me be able to see others as he sees them....and it was answered as I looked at this sweet little girl God has entrusted to me and I saw what he had called me to do, to love her.

and here I sit....being chastened and called to become a better version of myself.  

Adoption shines a light on weakness

Through this adoption every weakness within me has painfully been brought to my attention, every ounce of impatience, selfishness, ungratefulness....every part of me I wish I could sweep under a rug and never have to face......and yet God never intended to leave me the way I am.   Through this adoption, my life is being changed and unfortunately with this kind of profound change comes is HARD!!!  It isn't easy, every moment of every day, all my time and attention is demanded....I am preparing food, she doesn't like that food so I am preparing more food, changing clothes, changing soiled bedding, sweeping the floor for the 100th time is a thankless job and yet, I would not be anywhere other than where I am...God is changing who I was into something much greater...

Videos and Pictures of the Last month home

 Little Miss received a gift from a friend clear across the country who had been so inspired by her and her story....she absolutely LOVED the boats, she carried them around all day and took them into the bath with her!  What a perfect gift!
 Little Miss found dog food on the floor.....she actually gave up her "Ji mu" Blocks that she had been carrying as her toy of choice the last few days...That is a BIG Deal!!  I was praying she was not going to decide that the dog food would be her next toy....luckily we were able to get it away from her and distract her with something else :-)  She kept listening to the sound of the dog food in her fingers and food, dog food....Oh goodness!  Never a dull moment around here.....

We took her to Cornbellys...she LOVED the tater tots and kept asking for 'More tater tots pwease"  She was very overwhelmed...she did not enjoy playing in the dried corn, and did not like the bouncy houses and so we let her ride on the 'horsey'  or Qi ma and she enjoyed that.  

She LOVES to copy everything we evening she had been playing with one of my solar patio lights and she dropped it and the top came off...she calls out Zhao Dao (find) and I say 'Oh crap' as I notice it broke and of course our little parrot as we call her says.... 'oh crap'  Kenzi and I laughed so hard and so she continued saying oh crap, oh crap..... thank heavens she has not said that again...I must watch my language

She has begun having conversations with herself mimicking the conversations we have with is so funny!

Example:    "Zhao Dao" (find)  "Say, help me please"  "Help me please"  "Good job"

This is the conversation we have every time she drops a toy which is like 10 million times a day...or maybe I am exaggerating..but only a little :-)   She says in Mandarin "zhao dao"  (find)  and I remind her to ask for help please, then she says, help me please, I tap on the floor where the toy is until she comes and finds it and then I tell her good job.  She has this conversation with herself when she is laying on the floor or jumping around in circles....

Kenzi taught little miss to say "David Archuleta is Bae"   so everytime she talks about buying David Archuleta tickets little miss promptly yells, David Archuletta is Bae...we all laugh and she keeps repeating it..
We took her to get ice cream a couple times after swinging at the park and now every time she finishes swinging she yells....Isu Crea....Ice cream!  Now, she expects ice cream after swinging..

Last night she was laying on her trampoline giggling while daddy and brother were watching the college football game and then she stands up and says, I pizza pwease.... she remembered that last time we watched football she got to have pizza...she is a smart little one.

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